Love you all, praying for you,
I just love God’s Word. It’s truth – It’s revealing – it’s convicting - and its more about you than about them. I noticed early on in my PRISM time in God’s Word - how quickly I could think of someone ‘who really needs to hear this.” God used that as an example for me. Every time I read God’s Word – and I think about someone who really should do that… it’s usually more for me than for them. Have you noticed in life – when you’re young, your life is consumed with three things – getting an education, getting a job, and getting a spouse? An education takes a lot of time, but at least it results in a degree, certification or certificate of completion. A job requires knowledge, skill and proven ability, or you won’t get hired. Then it requires dedication and diligence. All three of these things take time – Education takes at least four years sometimes eight or twelve. A job and career takes 8 hours a day at least; to be excellent, sometime more – and in some seasons, a lot more. An education – (even with a ‘change of major’ detour) – at least results in a degree. A job at least results in a paycheck. But a spouse… that investment - is often a lot of time spent, for nothing. That’s why we have always encouraged our children and every young person we meet - to invest wisely when it comes to a spouse pursuit. And the best investment – is not in them… it’s first in you. Praying that you will review the Relationship Topic - The Five Pursuits of A Young Man or Woman. Get these first. Become who God wants you to be, and you will be ready for who God wants to bring you to. If you pursue another person instead of who God wants you to be, you can spend hours upon hours and end up with no degree, or a lot of money spent, but no money earned. Would you go to College for four years, if you had little or no chance of getting a degree? How many weeks or months would you work at a job or career if you never got a paycheck? That’s what the dating game is. A lot of investment – but little reward. Have you noticed it’s never called the marriage game… but it is referred to as ‘the dating game’ for good reason. It’s a crap shoot, kind of like Vegas. The reason that most people fail at the dating game, is they have the wrong focus. They’re trying to get one, rather than be one. Most people want to find a good husband, but think little about being a good wife. They want to find the perfect wife, but invest little in being an awesome husband – the kind that she would forsake all others for. They want someone that meets their needs, but invest little time, energy, prayer or growth, to become what their spouse needs. Praying that you will review just as a timely reminder (whether you’re married yet or not) the 11 Things you Need in a Husband, and the 11 Things you need in a wife. But rather than reading it – like everyone else does – “what I’m looking for or need” – read it to find out what they’re looking for and need. It’s just God’s promise of sowing and reaping… Become what they need, and you’ll marry the one that you need, whether you’re married yet or not. The way to find your Esther is become the one that Esther longs to marry. If you want to find that Prince Charming – become the Princess that will sweep him off his feet. It’s not what you wear, it’s who you are – that will get you the Prince. GQ isn’t what she’s after. If you want to marry the Princess, become the Knight in shining armor that she is waiting for. It’s character, conviction, and good choices, over looks. Those who pursue the external often lack the internal. Have you ever met or dated a guy like that, or a girl like that? They’re like a beautifully wrapped Christmas Present – with nothing in it. Or what’s inside, is really… unattractive. How disappointing. It’s what brings an end to every dating game. God has better for you! Not for you to get – for you to be! (See how easy it is to fall into the old way of thinking? Learn to think differently). It’s what you give, not what you get, that determines how wonderful your married life will be. If you’re already married. Stop hoping your spouse will become what you need. And work on becoming what they need. The best way to do that – is seek after God with all your heart, just do what He tells you to do, (Every Day). Learn to think like He thinks, and it will change the way you treat your spouse. You’ll begin to treat your spouse in a way that will draw them to you, like moth to a flame. Become the husband she dreams of, become the wife that He’s enthralled by. And it’s more than looks. If the best looking people had the best marriages – Hollywood wouldn’t’ be on their third and fourth marriage. Praying that you will review those 11 Things you need in a husband or wife – not to see what you need, but to see how you’re doing! And rather than looking for one – becoming one. Your spouse will so appreciate it, whether you have them already, or they are still coming. The investment is always worth the wait. Don’t think of what to get, think of what to give… Pray that you are becoming what your Spouse needs, by becoming what God has for you. If you walk in His plans for you – it’s what they need you to become. It’s worth the investment. Love you all, dad
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